I’m excited to share the first edition of Ask Kilee. I mentioned when I announced this series that I get a lot of questions from readers in my email that I just don’t have time to answer no matter how much I wish I could! This series hopefully will help me get them answered and allow me to share more of what I leave out about life in my normal posts. Feel free to send questions in any time. If you sent in a question and I don’t answer it this month, I’ll get to it next month, or I may have a full post in mind for answering your specific question.
As far as prepping a sibling, I think the best way is to talk about the baby a lot. Create a new space for the baby in your house, like a nursery, so there is physically a new bedroom or bed for your daughter to understand is for a new family member. My first boys were 18 months apart, so the oldest just kind of went with it. It only takes a few weeks for it to feel like you have always had two. The important work I think happens when you talk to your first child about what it means to be a big sister (or brother) as they get a little older. When Easton (our oldest) was about 3.5 years old, my husband and I talked a lot with him about what it means to be a good older brother. He knows now that it is his job to protect them, help them, teach them, and be a good example to them. He gets in trouble specifically for that sometimes, but it has worked! He really is a great older brother and I’m so glad he feels a sense of responsibility for his youngers. Siblings are a huge gift to your kids and I think they are made to adapt to them and love them!
Well I hate to say it, but yes, the transition to third has been the hardest for me. There are so many factors that play into how hard the number of kids are – from how close they are together to how much your husband works. Every situation is different, but yes, three has been a rough adjustment.
Ahh, stress – my constant companion as of late. 🙂 I wish I had a super helpful answer for this. I have really been struggling with it myself and I have found a few things lately that have reduced it, but I know there are more things that I could do. Some things that have helped are to get more sleep (I never get enough!), try to say no to things so that my plate isn’t so full, and create a schedule. The more planned out I am with a rough schedule about what they day holds, what the week holds, and what is for dinner, the better off I am. I also recently ordered Young Living Essential Oils with the hopes of getting some relief from my migraines and stress. I felt really skeptical of them at first, but we are giving them a try and I’ll be sure to post how they helped us. I have also been reading Daring Greatly and it has more to do with reducing stress and anxiety than you would think! And pedicures with friends sometimes help too!
I do straighten my hair almost every day. Because of my short hair I have to do something to it – there is no pony tail option. I try to curl it the next day so that I can skip the shower and blow dry time, but I love showering, so usually I do. I’ve always blow dried and straightened my hair, so maybe my kids just expect that they play while I get ready? My hair is also quite straight, so after I blow dry it with a round brush, it is almost ready to go.
What is your favorite thing to wear?
My favorite thing to wear at home is leggings and an over-sized cardigan. But in general, I love dark skinny jeans, a soft pull over sweater and some kind of wedge shoe.
Weeeeellllll – I used to, and I like the idea of working out in the mornings. Currently I don’t work out – and haven’t since our business launched in June. It has been too crazy to find the time, and although I’m sure it would help my stress (see above), it just hasn’t happened. I do love to run, walk, lift, weights and do Pilates. Sometimes we’ll do 5k’s as a family, but I usually walk with the stroller these days!