This is my house today. I woke up to this, picked it all up, and it looks like this again at what is now 4:30 in the afternoon. Toys and throw pillows all over the floor. Backpacks, shoes, crumbs. Dirty lunch dishes, a vacuum, kids on the iPad, and open cupboards. I would usually pick it all up again (in hyper speed because baby is asleep, I have dinner to make and a very short window of time to work in), but guess what it will look like again after the kids get in bed? This.
It’s the endless cycle that is being a mom that there are always wet clothes in the the washing machine ready to be dried and clothes in the dryer that need to be taken out and a gigantic pile of clothes that need to be folded and put away. Most of the tasks that are required when taking care of kids and a house are constantly on repeat and constantly being undone. There is no done with the dishes or done with the crumbs or done with clutter.
And part of me can appreciate and love it. I love my kids being little, and I would despise not having them around to make messes for me. I mean really—what would I do with my time?? I love them and I can even love the messes they make. But I don’t love feeling like that is all I do. And with a newborn I’m back to being held hostage by little ones. I think most mommas can relate to that feeling. It’s hard. I’m struggling with it today.
I think you know by now how much I like to go-go-go and do-do-do. I have a lot on my plate, and I like it that way. Lately there have been a lot of days where I struggle with feeling like everything I did got undone and that tomorrow I will wake up and do all of it again (while it’s being undone!). Yes, the eating Oreos while brushing your teeth joke applies here.
So what to do? My mom got some advice a long time ago that she passed on to me, and I’m trying to remember it right now. Do one thing every day that can’t get undone. Create something, write something, call someone, move one step closer on a goal. And I think there is magic in that. Today, writing this post is my one thing that can’t get undone. I’m typing out my thoughts and sending them out into the world, and fortunately or unfortunately, that can’t be undone. 🙂
So if this phase of life sounds all too familiar, try my mom’s tip. Think of something each day that can’t be undone and make it a priority. It won’t take away the repeat chores or tasks, but it will give you some sanity. It will give you something to think back on and feel good about at the end of the day. You’ll be building something inside yourself and still enjoying the feeling that we all yearn for—to be improving and moving forward.
What did you do today that couldn’t be undone? What are you going to do tomorrow?