Summary: This week on the podcast, I want to talk about comparing ourselves to one another and how to overcome those thoughts. Comparison is probably one of the biggest reasons why we as women struggle to celebrate one another.
As Women’s History Month comes to an end, I think about how we celebrate women in our lives. Today is a bit of a shift as I want to talk about something that gets in the way of women celebrating one another. Because let’s be honest, sometimes celebrating others can be hard and I want to talk about why that is.
A couple weeks ago, we invited a group of female business owners to meet at Nickel & Suede. It was so refreshing to be in the company of so many like-minded women. We all need that group in our lives who have walked in our shoes—women who go through the same struggle of balancing life and kids and work. As a former stay-at-home mom, I’ve missed having a community like that since I started working full-time.
Fast forward to this week, and I recently caught up with a few of my stay-at-home mom friends, and they have been just as busy as I am. They’re doing homeschool, planting gardens, and planning spring break field trips. The joy we felt for one another was mutual despite now having different priorities. And as great as those conversations were, I could not shake that feeling of missing out. I could not understand why. I was happy for them; I loved hearing about their lives and what they were doing. It made me think about what a downward spiral comparison is. My feelings didn’t stick around long, but I wanted to talk about it because I know many women feel this way.
They say comparison is the thief of joy, and I believe that to be true. It’s the opposite of being thankful for what you have. Comparison will deny you the opportunity to celebrate each other’s accomplishments. I hope that when you feel comparison chipping away at your confidence, you catch yourself. Think of all the beautiful stories we can share because we all have different gifts, and we go after such unique goals.
So in the spirit of this month, I want to challenge you to be happy – for yourself and for the women in your life. Cheer for them and celebrate you too. Be glad for all the differences we have as women. It would be impossible if we were all the same. Spread compliments like confetti. There is so much magic to be had in sharing what you admire in someone else. Everyone needs a cheerleader, so why not be that person for yourself and others.
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